Every October, when the pumpkins line the grocery aisles and porch lights begin to glow orange, I feel that familiar tug — the world preparing for Halloween. But for me, it’s a time I’ve quietly stepped away from. I don’t decorate with ghosts or skeletons, and I don’t hand out candy at the door.
It’s not because I dislike fun or children in costumes — far from it! I simply made a choice years ago to focus my heart on things that feel light, wholesome, and life-giving. The truth is, Halloween never felt peaceful to me. It celebrates fear, darkness, and things I’d rather not welcome into my home or spirit.
And that’s okay. I’ve learned that you can love the season without loving the holiday.
Choosing Light Over Fright
When I think of October, I don’t picture monsters or cobwebs — I picture golden leaves tumbling across the yard, the smell of cinnamon drifting from the kitchen, and the sound of laughter as family gathers around the table.
There’s something sacred in that simple kind of joy. It reminds me that I don’t have to join in the world’s version of celebration to feel part of the season. Instead, I find beauty in turning toward the light — in kindness, creativity, and gratitude.
How I Celebrate the Season Instead
So, what do I do instead of Halloween? I fill my days with fall traditions that bring peace instead of fright — moments that honor the beauty of creation and the warmth of family.
1. Harvest Nights at Home
When the air turns crisp, I make big pots of chili or soup, slice homemade bread, and invite family to linger around the table. Sometimes we play music softly in the background or share stories while candles flicker on the counter.
2. The Thankful Tree
Each October, I set up a small branch in a vase and cut out paper leaves. Every evening, we write one thing we’re thankful for and hang it on the “tree.” By Thanksgiving, it’s overflowing with gratitude — a beautiful reminder of how blessed we are.
3. Fall Porch Decorating
Instead of cobwebs and creepy decor, I fill the porch with pumpkins, mums, straw bales, and a sign that says “Harvest Blessings.” It’s cheerful, inviting, and still celebrates the season.
4. Faith-Filled Fall Gatherings
Many churches host harvest festivals or “light nights” for families who want to celebrate in uplifting ways. There’s music, laughter, games, and sometimes even hayrides — all centered on joy, not fear.
5. Kindness Over Candy
Instead of passing out candy, I love making little treat bags filled with homemade cookies or pumpkin bread, along with a sweet note that says, “You are loved.” It’s my way of spreading joy without compromise.
Finding Peace in Simplicity
I don’t miss Halloween at all. In fact, I’ve come to love the peace that fills my home this time of year. Instead of scary movies and spooky decorations, I get to enjoy quiet evenings with a cup of tea, a crochet project in my lap, and the comforting hum of family nearby.
There’s something freeing about choosing differently — about saying “no” to what doesn’t bring peace and “yes” to what nourishes your spirit.
As the leaves fall and the nights grow long, I’m reminded that the light always shines brighter than the dark. That’s what I choose to celebrate — the good, the pure, and the beautiful.
